tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4795012833336216960.post7928365112825809909..comments2023-10-22T03:05:39.492-07:00Comments on The Pains of an Overactive Mind: Unemployed Imposter SyndromeJessica Brownhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15680894454167044249noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4795012833336216960.post-23633200693248611772013-12-07T11:16:37.507-08:002013-12-07T11:16:37.507-08:00Aw thank you Daisy. I think this is the most compr...Aw thank you Daisy. I think this is the most comprehensive comment I've ever had on my blog!<br /><br />I often try and remember what you said about others not even noticing - everyone else is too busy being concerned about themselves and what others might think of them, just as we are! xJessica Brownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15680894454167044249noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4795012833336216960.post-24322268248805392942013-12-07T10:48:44.719-08:002013-12-07T10:48:44.719-08:00I related to this post so much. I am constantly fe...I related to this post so much. I am constantly feeling that I'm incompetent at various things that I encounter, particularly as I get older and am supposed to suddenly become a 'capable adult'; but, annoyingly, when I really think about it I usually find that this incompetence is simply borne out of my own insecurities and not because anyone else goes out of their way to make me feel inferior. <br />I think that we are always our own worst enemy and if we asked anyone else, they'd be far too busy worrying about themselves and their own incompetence to have even started considering ours. I guess it's a comfort in a way!<br />Basically, even if you feel a bit incompetent at work at the moment, you may as well try your hardest to pretend you're not feeling that way; because, likelihood is, no one else has even noticed!<br /><br />Anyway, I'm so glad you wrote to me on twitter and I found your blog because I really really like it. I've been wanting to find someone who just writes PROPERLY for ages and I feel like I've finally found it.<br /><br />Looking forward to reading more!<br /><br />P.s. Totally sticking that Things That Will Make You Feel Better About Yourself list on my wall and doing the salad at McDonalds thing ASAP. Hilarious.Daisy Swanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03183582089718596542noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4795012833336216960.post-31571140278552781382013-12-06T04:08:16.085-08:002013-12-06T04:08:16.085-08:00Aw thank you Naomi, your comment has made me very ...Aw thank you Naomi, your comment has made me very happy! Visceral, even ;) haha I'm so the same with pictures, I panicked with this post because I couldn't find a relevant photo to upload with it! And thank you for the advice, it's very true! I guess if you care enough to worry you're not good enough at something, you're probably already better than you think :) Jessica Brownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15680894454167044249noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4795012833336216960.post-12264288525592375062013-12-06T03:02:51.134-08:002013-12-06T03:02:51.134-08:00I just found your blog after you commented on my W...I just found your blog after you commented on my Word of the Week post and I'm so glad I had a gander - your writing is brilliant.<br />It's not often that blogs with few pictures hold my attention (i feel like a child, I need photos and colourful things to stay focused) but this post was the first thing I saw when I came onto your page and I read it right to the end - a sign that you are in fact very good at what you do.<br />So, I hope that makes you feel better - you are always better than you think. I know exactly how you feel, and it's refreshing to see someone write a blog post about it. The way I think about it is, the extent to which you care about something, are passionate about it, or put effort in even if it ends in tears and frustration, proves that you are not as bad as you think. Because even if you don't produce something 100% perfect, it's certainly better than something you might have written if you didn't even care about it!<br />Naomi xoNaomihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00202027605053478520noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4795012833336216960.post-56664322570806493642013-12-04T11:21:02.304-08:002013-12-04T11:21:02.304-08:00Thank you for your comment and kind words Dawn :) ...Thank you for your comment and kind words Dawn :) xJessica Brownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15680894454167044249noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4795012833336216960.post-80669978018196756612013-12-04T08:14:21.774-08:002013-12-04T08:14:21.774-08:00I really really loved this so much and could relat...I really really loved this so much and could relate to each and every word. Whilst you seem to doubt your own abilities and worry that you are not as competent as others (which i find myself doing ALL the time), remember how brave it is to aim above what you think you can do. If you never push yourself you will never improve - at anything, work or otherwise. It takes a strong person to do that, even if you may think it is nothing. And one day, your writing will be seen by someone who was once in your shoes (everyone has to start somewhere) and they will see what a beautiful way you have with words and recognise the potential buried inside your pretty little head.<br /><br />I promise xxxxxxSallytanglehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09070219776982675074noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4795012833336216960.post-21246920218543672382013-12-02T00:19:20.884-08:002013-12-02T00:19:20.884-08:00I don't think it's part of being a woman. ...I don't think it's part of being a woman. I think it's part of being this generation; previous ones fell into things and let life lead them and us...we are told we can do anything if we work hard enough but the choice is overwhelming & the opportunities fewer the more purses get snapped shut. So there's no way to "try before you buy' and if your choice isn't good enough more time and effort goes into changing the choice-that's been my problem anyway. A whole world of possibility and due to lack of decision I've been mediocre in all of them except the one that I truly want. <br />I love your to-do list and I love your attitude: make yourself feel better. Your dad should be proud of the tools he's given you. <br />We are too driven by happiness and what we have to lose that we might end up missing it. Forget your fear, do your best and run with it. When all is said and done, your opinion of you is the one you remember when you're old and up at 5 am making tea...make sure you're proud of you.<br />Dawn xAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4795012833336216960.post-21944693024970337682013-12-01T13:52:16.856-08:002013-12-01T13:52:16.856-08:00That is a very good point! I give up. And it's...That is a very good point! I give up. And it's good to know there's a fellow imposter around!Jessica Brownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15680894454167044249noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4795012833336216960.post-33079314174463319142013-12-01T13:24:59.897-08:002013-12-01T13:24:59.897-08:00I know Impostor Syndrome all too well. Every singl...I know Impostor Syndrome all too well. Every single job I've ever had I was not qualified for, but somehow everyone thought I was one of the best there. If you don't know it, fake it, right? And as for those tips making me feel better, that's a double edged sword. Sure, Haruki Murakami didn't start writing until he was 29, but he also didn't start writing in a world where Oxford was asking itself, "Hmmm, should we add twerk or selfie to the dictionary this year?"A Beer for the Showerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17029139745335325356noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4795012833336216960.post-25783877748022107932013-12-01T11:23:31.812-08:002013-12-01T11:23:31.812-08:00Thank you for such a lovely comment Grace :)Thank you for such a lovely comment Grace :)Jessica Brownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15680894454167044249noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4795012833336216960.post-12924154519385912072013-12-01T11:11:56.030-08:002013-12-01T11:11:56.030-08:00Jess, a well-written blog post as usual. When writ...Jess, a well-written blog post as usual. When writing about personal issues, it is difficult to strike a balance between honesty and problem-solving without sounding miserable. I really enjoyed reading your 'to do' list. Likewise, I lack confidence and was discussing this with my Grandma (whom I'm very close to). She's 71, likely nearing the end of her clean-living life of virtue and she told me that her one regret is not being confident enough, something that still holds her back. You may be reaching another birthday, but you have plenty of time to let every success you do have build you up. :) Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com