More than enough

From Shout to Elle and everything in-between, I have always devoured magazines with a hunger only comparable to that of chocolate after lent. Please know that I only said that for metaphorical purposes, I'd never give up chocolate.
Magazines have, for as long as I can remember, unfailingly supplied me with insightful articles, entertaining columns and life-saving beauty tips. Magazines aimed at women are unique in that they cover issues you hadn't even realised existed, and at the risk of sounding nauseatingly feminist, how to overcome problems facing women at work and at  home.
Magazines have no doubt been responsible for soothingly consoling masses of women through the dilemma of 'having it all', as well as thousands of other issues,including mental health disorders, psychological issues and career advice.
Recently there has been an explosion of doubt for the most level-headed of women, as a continuous flow of cheating allegations hit headlines and consequently rippled into women's minds. This has put into the hands of magazines the responsibility to acknowledge the fear crossing the minds of thousands of women, and to then reassure them. It's no wonder women are becoming paranoid about the fidelity of their men, after even the most unsuspecting celebrities like Ronan Keating and Vernon Kay have been recently caught cheating.
This is a time for many women to seek refuge in well-written articles, for example, reminding them that what seems like every man in the public eye is, in fact, only a small proportion. Unfortunately, I was appalled to read an article in this week's more magazine suggesting that women are to blame for this seemingly increasing bad behavior of men. The article, titled: 'Are you making your man cheat?' says:

 "According to research there are certain circumstances  and situations that make men more likely to cheat. Whether it's because they're unsatisfied with their relationship, because they feel insecure, or the just don't have the willpower to stay faithful, there are factors that could encourage him to stray. And it turns out that some of these actually relate to how you behave within our relationship."

The article, obviously not yet offensive enough, then offers a quote from a clinical psychologist, who says:

"It's important for us to take some responsibility for our man's actions...there are things women do without realising that it can be destructive to a relationship and push him towards playing away'."

The magazine suggests that women have the potential to behave in a way to drive their man into the arms of another woman, which, in my opinion, is extremely irresponsible .Nothing a woman does, no matter how irritating, provides a valid excuse for cheating. If your partner is annoying or unkind, you simply end the relationship, or cheat and blame yourself. I'm sure readers are aware of that. The article basically suggests to women that they their man's infidelity could be their fault.
Also, it's patronising of more to tell readers to 'prioritise' your man, be friendly with his mates, and ensure you connect on an emotional level. Which of course, if you fall behind on any of the criteria listed, you are responsible for your man's wandering hands.
Magazines aimed at women are there to support, advise and inspire. They're not there to make women doubt their ability to maintain a relationship, become paranoid that they're not doing enough to keep their partner's eyes on them, and blame themselves if they don't.

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